If you’re too lazy to read the article, the gist is that the writer of the “need advice” letter doesn’t find his wife sexually attractive anymore because she stopped shaving her legs. He comments that she used to do it before they were married, but wasn’t happy about it, and stopped doing it regularly once the ink was dry on the marriage certificate. He’s tried telling her he doesn’t find it attractive and she still won’t shave.
Cary’s advice: “I suggest you try to make it interesting and fun” is the most asinine thing I’ve heard in a while. When did women become petulant toddlers? Do we also need men to cut our vegetables into goldfish shapes to incite us to eat them? It’s her fucking BODY we’re talking about here. She’s aware that her husband doesn’t find her natural legs attractive. She chooses not to shave because she DOESN’T WANT TO SHAVE HER LEGS. It’s not about HIM, it’s about HER. HER BODY, HER DECISION. If this guy has stated his opinion on hairy legs, and his wife doesn’t “comply” with his desires, he needs to either shut up and masturbate, buy a RealDoll (which he can totally customize!) or readjust his thinking and accept his wife’s authority over her own body. Cary waffles on that, and it pisses me off.
I admit that I’m biased – I don’t shave my legs with any regularity. Does it matter why? I mean, really? It’s a choice I make – like the colour of my hair or what t-shirt I want to wear or what books I choose to read. My husband is fine with that – he finds my fuzzy legs “neutral” in that they’re neither a turn-on or a turn-off. They’re simply a pair of legs.
The hair GROWS there – just like it does on men. How is it that men’s leg hair is fine and dandy but women’s is gross and disgusting and a total turn-off?
Fuck THAT.
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Plus you stay much warmer in winter when you *don’t* shave! Seriously – try shaving, putting on some jeans and going outside in the depth of winter and you see – that’s damn cold. For that reason I rarely shave my legs in the winter but really, may leg hair doesn’t grow the way it used to and it’s slow growing and dammit if you’re down there inspecting my legs you need to get a life!
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I know you’ve got very good points to tackle, but did someone wake up and have a big, milky bowl of RAGE this morning? :D
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Maybe he wouldn’t have married her if she had hairy legs while they were dating. Given that marriage is such a big commitment and sex is a very important part of marriage it seems to me that he has a valid grievance *IF* the wife intentionally misrepresented herself pre-marriage and didn’t just coincidently decide to quit shaving for whatever reason after the ink was dry. Whatever the reason, unless he wants to get a divorce he’s SOL and needs to work through it with his partner.
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