Supported. Completely.

And when I have doubts, I have friends who do not doubt me:

I can’t really imagine two better candidates than you two, except perhaps someone who already has experienced parenting. But then again, there are pros to being able to give a child your first ever parenting experience energy. For one, you have a very solid marriage. You are open minded. You are eager to learn and you are learners, researchers. You are going into this with eyes wide open, knowing you may be facing many hours of family counselling. You’ve put a huge amount of thought into what you can handle and what you can’t. You have a good idea what your limits might be and you are purposefully not considering adopting children with certain difficulties. Your approach is balanced, healthy and sane.

No, seriously..

I know that you and Coffee will be amazing parents. Not only that, but I firmly believe that you two were MEANT to parent a child or children who may have unique challenges in life. I mean, come on. Look at how much adversity you two have dealt with and you are such amazing human beings. Let’s just take YOU…..if you look at all the loss you’ve suffered in your life and yet you are still able to love so deeply and completely and deliriously deliciously? That’s amazing! And that’s exactly what an older child being adopted needs to see modeled. You’ve also got a background in mental health and an understanding of what it is like to not be 100% “sane” 100% of the time and you know that it is OK and that it can be dealt with. You are completely realistic, you are extremely intelligent, you plan ahead yet you are flexible. I’m telling you, you are going to ROCK at this. I could go on and on and on and I will happily do so if you so desire. ;)

I’m pretty sure both of these two are always happy to make new friends. Perhaps you need a cheering squad, too?