Eventually I’ll get around to posting this on the adoption list I’m part of, but in the meantime I’m wondering if any of you have suggestions for:
1. A book(s) with strategies to help “control freak” children. Please note that I am a (mostly) reformed control freak myself so I use the term with love – but also that I recognize the perils of being a control freak in a completely uncontrollable world. Ideally, this will be a book for parents, not kids (as our control freak does not see any problem with being a control freak and, of course, is totally not concerned about his future ulcers, insomnia or panic attacks..)
2. A book(s) with strategies to help kids deal with anger. This is not a big, scary, urgent thing going on here – but more a simmering anger in a kid that needs to learn some new coping skills. This book can be either FOR kids or for parents (I’m willing to do the work here!) and there is no specific subject that triggers the anger.
I’m going to bed now.
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I shall check with a friend of mines mother for some recommendations… she is a therapist specializing in kids so hopefully I’ll have some titles for you tomorrow or the next day :)
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Hey, delurking to offer my two cents. There is a really great workbook for parents and kids of elementary school age that deals with anger. I’m a child and youth counsellor and I use it all the time. It’s “A Volcano in My Tummy”. You can get it at Parentbooks, in Toronto, but it is often available at Indigo as well. Another good one is “Seeing Red”, which is in the same vein but with a few different activities. I really recommend Parentbooks – they have a big selection of books for kids as well.
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A girlfriend of mine does anger management counseling with kids and young teenagers. I asked her for the list of books they recommend to parents:
Resources for CHILDREN & TEENS – ANGER
* A Volcano in My Tummy by Elaine Whitehouse and Warwick Pudney
* Franklin’s Bad Day by Paulette Bourgeois and Brenda Clark
* When Sophie Gets Angry by Molly Bang
* I Am So Angry, I Could Scream (any age) by Laura Fox
* When I Feel Angry by Carnelia Maude Spelman
* Is It Right to Fight? by Pat Thomas
* Dealing with Feelings: I’m Frustrated by Crary & Whitney
* Dealing with Feelings: I’m Mad by Crary & Whitney
* I Was So Mad by Mercer Mayer
* Mad Isn’t Bad by Michaelene MundyPARENTING – EMOTIONS
* The Heart of Parenting: Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman
* The Family Guide to Emotional Wellness (full of self-help exercises) by Patrick Fanning and Matthew McKay
* Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys, Kidlon & ThompsonPARENTING – SELF-ESTEEM
* 100 Ways to Build Self-Esteem and Teach Values by Diana Loomans
PARENTING – GENERAL
* Kids are worth it! by Barbara Colorosso
* Hold On to Your Kids by Gabor Mate
* Children: The Challenge by Rudolf Dreikurs
* How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Teens Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
* How to Say It to Your Kids by Paul Coleman
* The Hidden Wisdom of Parents by Samuel Osherson
* Growing Up Again by Connie Dawson and Jean Illsley Clarke
* The Secret of Parenting by Anthony Wolfe
* 1-2-3 Magic by Thomas Phelan
* I never get Anything! By Thomas Phelan
* The Pampered Child Syndrome by Maggie Mamen
* Quirky Kids: Understanding and Helping Your Child Who Doesn’t Fit In – When to Worry and When Not to Worry by Klass and Costello
* Roots of Empathy: Changing the World Child by Child by Mary Gordon
* Who’s in Charge Anyway? How Parents Can Teach Children to Do the Right Thing by Kathy Lynn
* http://www.parenthelpline.ca/ (The Parent Helpline)
* http://www.activeparentingcanada.com/index.html (Active Parenting Canada)
* http://www.parentsplace.com -
The list that Kate left for you basically mirrors the one that I was about to post here!
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w00t! The expert’s actually agree. :)
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I know! Got to love when the experts are on the same page!
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Thank you SO much! I’m going to start adding to my library request list right away!
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