I assume that, when I tell you something, you are likely to share it with your spouse/SO/partner even in the event that I’ve said, “Please don’t tell anyone.”
I assume it because I tell Coffee everything. He’s like an extension of my brain at times – helping me sort through thoughts, plans, conversations, mistakes, wonderfulness.. everything. And I don’t keep secrets from him.
This is not to say that he’s necessarily interested, of course.
Do you tell your spouse/SO/partner everything? Do you share?
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I make that same assumption, and try very hard to make sure people don’t tell me anything they don’t want Will to hear about.
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I tell R most everything, and what I don’t bring up it’s often because I just didn’t think to tell him or I know it will bore him to tears. I’ve learned to filter out what I know he just really doesn’t care about, though (though I still tell him some of that anyway!).
Of course, there are also the times I tell him the same thing 10 times but that’s a whole other story.
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Over the years I’ve learned to filter, too, but it’s safest to assume I’ll tell him anyway. If I don’t want anyone else knowing something then I just don’t share it. With anyone.
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I don’t tell the husband everything. Stuff he needs to know, yes. Stuff that involves me, of course yes. But most stuff people tell me? Especially in confidence? No. If my friends say “Don’t tell anyone”, then I don’t tell anyone. Well, unless it has a direct impact on me, or him, or our relationship with that person, or whatever. But I’ll usually warn them, “hey, mind if I fill him in on this?” One thing I CAN do good, is keep a secret. To the death.
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Yes, pretty much. The only things I don’t tell Kelly are the things I know she doesn’t want to know. I’m trying to think of an example and I can’t, of course. Ok, let’s say someone at work tells about how their pet died in some horrible way, and it’s an incredibly sad story that left me very upset. I would likely not share that story with her. I know enough to know that she prefers to not hear about it.
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Ohh my God. I tell him like 95% of the time. I do keep some things from him but only if they have absolutely nothing to do with him and I’ve been sworn to secrecy by a friend.
I probably tell him too much! I blabber on and on sometimes and avoid looking straight at him so I can avoid seeing his eyes glaze over while I bombard him with ridiculous work stories. Hehe.
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Sadly, I suspect that my unwillingness to tell everything has a lot to do with why I don’t have a spouse/SO/partner….
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I should note that when I say “everything” I don’t mean that he gets a total play-by-play of my day or anything, just that I do tell him if there’s something interesting, intriguing, weird, funny, or anything I need to sort out for myself.
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Uh huh. Huh. Okay. Wow. Huh. Uh huh.
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I share, but not the “don’t tell anyone” stuff.
If I want to share, I generally ask the person if I can share with partner.
However, my partner has trained his ears to just let me blather on about my day (sometimes he is the only grownup I have talked to in hours and hours and hours), and I’m quite sure he remembers very little of what I say to him.
Unless I mention the possibility of intimacy. He manages to tune that in…
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Most things, yes. But not if I know it’s something my friend would not want shared even with my partner. And if I say “don’t tell anyone,” I will add “not even your partner” if it’s THAT top secret. I don’t have those kinds of secrets, though.
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