Comments on: Awesome Parent.

By: Trina

Trina — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 19:01:09 +0000

Wholy moley! I’m sure you are a lovely parent, and it is obviously not just your kids that are doing all of this stuff.
maybe you should have a chat with some of the other parents that you might know? and then you can have a talk with the principal. I think the whole school needs to be addressed about this stuff either through a class by class workshop or a whole school assembly, because it’s not okay.
all I can say is good luck….

thoughts and prayers
Trina

By: Kitty

Kitty — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 18:37:23 +0000

I agree with Kylie.

I was thinking the same thing…Where the FUCK are the teachers???

But I didn’t say that at first – I am a homeschooling mom, and when I say shit like that, people get all bent out of shape. Not Violet (she has a lovely shape), of course, but others.

By: Kylie

Kylie — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 17:18:50 +0000

I can understand your frustration love, but the truth is you’re not there during the day to watch their every move. So my question is where the FUCK are the teachers?? When I was in school we weren’t alone long enough to get a quick smack at each other let alone free genitals from clothing.

All of us here know you’re a good mom… This isn’t your fault and wow I can understand how angry you must be. Especially towards Oldest one… I’m sure things will get better though… I’m sure missing Christmas will do the trick if all else fails :)

By: Blog Fodder

Blog Fodder — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 07:50:58 +0000

Keep working at it, Violet. Some things take time and flashes of insight. All I can say is I am glad it is not me facing that. I was clueless as a parent. Ella was the problem solver. Hugs.

By: Kate

Kate — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 02:35:17 +0000

*hugs*

I wish I had something else to offer besides this: you and Coffee are great parents and this too will pass. (For everyone’s sake, I hope v. quickly!)

By: Sanna

Sanna — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 00:47:46 +0000

Isn’t Maymo five? Isn’t that around the age where playing doctor and similar games, exploring the differances in gender, becomes popular? Or is that earlier? Hmm… all I remember from my psychologytext is that around age 6, kids tend to have nightmares and talk a lot about death. Look forward to it… Ahem.

Continuing to have conversations about what’s appropriate is decidedly the way to go. I’d personally also add information about emotions of being subjected to something you’re not approving of, both in general (“When mum/dad makes you … , you feel …”) and in specific (“touching … feels like …”).

As for Oldest One…. good god. Teabagging? At SCHOOL? Where?! How the *fuck* did it get to that point? There’s some long talks needed about bullying at that school, ‘cuz that kind of behaviour – doing and watching – is without doubt bullying. Perhaps movies for educational purposes would be good as well? Perhaps Edward Scissorhands? Or this episode of Without A Trace I saw today, it’s called Our Sons and Daughters (S02E06).

I’d like to get through to him that it’s usually not the person doing the bullying that the victim remembers – it’s everyone that stood around doing nothing. I know that. I was bullied. My husband was bullied, much worse than me, and it’s no laughing matter. Ten, fifteen years later, those memories still haunt him, and he does get flashbacks (but apparently not “bad enough” to be PTSD).

You’re doing good in other areas. Don’t loose confidence in yourselves! Get the school in on it. THEY need to also talk about what’s okay to do or not, and perhaps run anti-bullying campaigns. Perhaps find help from http://www.stopabully.ca/ ?

By: Sylvain

Sylvain — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 23:30:12 +0000

Geezus!! What the hell is going on at that school? I have no idea how you are holding it together. Teabagging? Seriously? Wow, I am speechless.
I tried to think if we ever did anything similar when I was Maymo’s age.
I know we played “boys catch the girls”. We would chase them around and catch them and place them in a little fenced in corner of the school and it was “guarded” by two boys while the others ran off to fetch more girls. If the girls wanted out, they had to kiss one of the boys. But the girls (and the boys for that matter) thought that was icky, so they just stayed there. Then the bell rang and we all went back inside. Pretty tame compared to grabbing and dropping pants. I dunno what to say.

By: R.

R. — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 23:14:42 +0000

I wonder, would Oldest One just stand around and laugh while his friend teabagged his little brother?

By: violet

violet — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 22:57:19 +0000

And we got another note home today from Maymo’s teacher about “more inappropriate touching” – that, specifically, he was spanking another kid and then tried to *tell on* that kid.

So, one of my kids isn’t having Christmas this year. Literally.

By: Kitty

Kitty — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 21:27:17 +0000

oh my goodness. my dear. oh gosh.

I have no idea what to say. that SUCKS.