- Why, hello March! You’re looking mighty good to these winter-weary eyes.
- Ridiculously good sex. The kind that should probably be illegal.
- I’m up over 100 cards sent on Postcrossing. When I first started, I wasn’t sure if I’d enjoy it or not.. clearly I do.
- We’re getting money back on our income tax. That’s ALWAYS a good thing. Of course, the refund money is going toward paying the line of credit.. do we know how to PARTY or what? :)
- Taking naked pictures of myself. Because I was bored.
- Reading up on heat embossing. I’d like to try it!
- Tidying up my room/office mess. Slowly but surely.
- Watching a new (to us) TV show from the UK called “Being Human”. So far, after one episode, we quite like it.
- Jamma pants. I don’t know why I bother to change out of them on non-school days.
- Toasted whole-wheat bagels with yogurt chive spread.
LED – Research shows that 67% of women fake orgasms.. I say, WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE?!
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I faked an orgasm once many years ago and immediately realized why it was a really, really stupid thing to do. After that I felt I had only three choices…continue faking, fess up, or break up with that person. I chose #3, promising myself I would not make the same mistake with the next person, and I didn’t. It’s so much healthier and more honest just to teach your lover how to help you have one. I feel sorry for those 67%!
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I have faked a few, here and there, over the years. Sometimes because my partner was too focused on “did you come?” and not on my actual *pleasure* and thus I wanted to get it OVER WITH, and some because I wasn’t comfortable saying, “Hey, um, a little to the left and… YEAH! THERE! DO THAT!”
But it IS much healthier, especially in a relationship, to either give a few directions or to say, “Hey, y’know, I don’t think an orgasm is gonna’ happen here, so why don’t we focus on something else — like YOUR orgasm!” ;)
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Perhaps the problem is faking an interest in having sex at all?
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I realize some people don’t want to have sex. That’s a whole ‘nother discussion.
I think it’s just that people go into the whole “having sex” thing with differing opinions on what’s going to happen – both the process and the ending. And if you can’t express your desires, or if s/he isn’t receptive when you DO talk about it, then you really end up not wanting to bother doing it. Do I want to lie still and feign porn-star-esque moans of delight? No. If someone expects me to, and doesn’t give a shit about what actually makes me hot, why would I want to bother taking off my socks?
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I should have clarified. I’m referring to the 67% of women.
Some percentage may feel like maybe, sorta they want to have sex but don’t really and go along because they wish to meet expectations and “…hey maybe once things get going it might be interesting.” Then they fake it instead of making the effort to communicate and risk feeling bad about the whole “not giving a shit in the first place” problem or the fact that they’re settling. I’m on a horse.
I always thought socks-on was an indicator of participant passion. High passion renders trivialities like foot apparel inconvenient. Low passion provides time to walk through a checklist or four.
My wife would probably like me to keep my socks on all the time – either that or have my toenails surgically removed.
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