We have three main rules in our house, under which all the others can be neatly tucked.
This morning I decided to sit down with Maymo and Middle One (who are home for a PD day) to make a list of our important rules, and some less-important rules, in the hopes that I can put together a nifty little graphic that sums them up. Sort of like a family mission statement, but different.
(Maymo kept trying to give very specific rules – “no juggling with knives” came up a few times.)
After about 10 minutes of chatting, we came up with the following. There are 3 main rules, one bonus rule, and one “what to do if you don’t like the rules” rule. I’m impressed!
1. Be Safe
- No touching other people without permission
- No running in the house
- Don’t throw things!
- Don’t answer the door if Mom and Dad aren’t home
- Use common sense!
- Follow the rules at school and in the community
2. Be Respectful
- Don’t touch other people’s things without permission
- No slamming doors!
- No littering
- If it’s empty, refill it
- If it needs to be replaced, tell Mom and Dad
- If you’re not sure, ask!
- If you ask for it, eat it
- Clean up after yourself
- Get up on time and leave on time
- Say goodbye when you leave
- Make sure people know where you’re going and when you’ll be back
- If you answer the phone, write down the message
- Say please and thank you
- No swearing at other people
- Respect people’s space (like their bedroom)
- Knock before entering a room with a closed door
- Be quiet before 10 a.m. on weekends and holidays
- Use indoor voices when you’re indoors
- Take care of your stuff
- Take care of your body
- Tell the truth
- Don’t annoy other people intentionally
- Follow the rules (even if you don’t like them!)
3. Be Kind
- Say nice things about people
- Don’t be mean
- Help people at home and everywhere else
- Share stuff
- Pet the animals and play with them
- Do nice things for other people
- Say “I love you!”
Bonus Rule: Always do your best!
If You Don’t Like a Rule:
1. Keep following the rule anyway!
2. Tell Mom & Dad you want to talk about it
3. When you sit down to talk to Mom & Dad,
- know why the rule is in place
- know why you want to change it
- have suggestions for the change
4. Give Mom & Dad time to think about it and talk about it.