A Little Bio

Hi, I’m Violet!

First, You Must Read The Longest Disclaimer in History.

This is my blog – in all its glory – and every drop of it belongs to me and only me, except in instances where I’ve noted my use of an image or text that belongs to someone else. Regardless of whether you believe in karma or not, don’t steal my words/images/stuff. Feel free to link to my blog any time you like, in any capacity, even if it’s just to call me a dumbass – I’m okay with that – but don’t link directly to images.

The content of this blog originates inside my head – which means that it’s truly “all about me”. Even when I’m talking about you, it’s not about you. It’s about my perceptions, feelings and thoughts on the world around me. If you’re offended by something I write please let me know, but I make no promises to change or alter it to suit you.

Now, Here’s The Nitty Gritty Stuff.

I was born on July 16. I have purple/pink hair (depending on my mood), brown hair, due to societal norms that I must (temporarily?) adhere to in order to achieve specific goals purple hair, and green eyes and plenty of tattoos and piercings.

I’m a full-time “mature” college student and in 2011 I’ll be a registered social service worker (RSSW). Neat. I also work as a Relief Worker for a local agency involved in mental health.

I’m married to Coffee, a geeky guy who makes me the happiest girl on earth. He’s my best friend and the only person who gets to hear all of my deep, dark secrets. He’s seriously awesome. Having said that, I try very hard to not speak on his behalf within my blog posts, so there are many instances where he’s conspicuously absent – do not let that fool you into thinking he’s not involved.

We have three boys who are known on my blog as Oldest One (13), Middle One (10) and Maymo (6). They were adopted by Coffee and I in December of 2007. We chose adoption purposely – we did not, at any point in time, attempt to conceive a biological kid – and even now the whole concept of “being responsible for other people” is crazy.

Posts about my kids are password protected (other than tiny little tidbits here and there) and I will only provide the password to people who I know on some level. If you think I ‘know’ you well enough that I’d be okay with you reading it, please email me and I’ll give you access.

(I am always willing to answer questions about adoption, however, so feel free to email or leave a comment.)

Much of my blog is random – I rant when I’m ranty, I whine when I’m whiny, and I laugh when I’m amused. Don’t take it too seriously, and please know that I’m not taking it too seriously either. It is what it is.

I love lists. Here’s one for you:

• I believe in things like love and nature and recycling and being kind to others.
• My favourite word is “mutherfucker”.
• I avoid the phone at all costs. Voicemails pile up for DAYS before I check them.
• Mail, however, is the best thing EVER.
• I am very smell-oriented. My nose is mighty powerful.
• I think you should read the book “Cunt” by Inga Muscio.
• Things that sparkle are generally a good thing.
• Pink is not a gender stereotype – it’s a colour.
• Life is good.
• I love profanity. I swear a lot. A LOT lot.
• I consider chocolate a mandatory food group.
• I am a feminist who sucks cock.
• I believe men can be feminists, too. My husband is. My boys will be.
• I am vehemently pro-choice on every single subject that can have pro-choice slapped onto it.
• I am bisexual and always have been.
• I drink too much Dr. Pepper.
• I have ADD but I’m unmedicated. By choice. Life is more fun this way.
• I love sleep. Napping. Passing out while watching TV. Sleeeeeeep.
• I believe that weed should be legal.
• I was married once before – I’m pretty sure he’s still alive, somewhere.
• I have multiple piercings and tattoos and I’m not done adorning myself yet.
• I am addicted to UFC and MMA. How GIRLY of me.
• My parents are both dead – they both died at a rather young age.
• I’m an only child.
• I drive stick.

My most-often used phrase, yet rarely used in email, is: “It’s all good.”